My ex kept referring to his infidelity as a "mistake." It was such a small word and seemed like such a throw-away comment. It felt like the people who say, "the gun just went off." Well yes, while you had your finger on the trigger. It didn't just go off all by its sweet little self.
As an author, I dread one thing: radio Interviews. Especially live ones.
I'm not a (terribly) vindictive person, but some opportunities are too good to resist. Which is why I volunteered my ex-husband for the dunk tank at the school fair.
The Bryants' situation makes me wonder what is "better" as far as their kids are concerned: parting and getting back together or splitting up for good?
My divorce was a tsunami. The wave of precursors was hidden deep beneath the surface of the marital waters and were not visible to the naked eye.
Once I was divorced, people assumed that I was enlisted in a war -- "us against them" -- pitting Mars against Venus.
Divorce is about the end of a relationship, and alimony is about its continuation beyond the finish line.
How do you say goodbye to someone you have slept in same bed with for 15 years?
Once Upon a Time and the other stepmother tales suggest that, as a culture, we may still harbor deep anxieties about non-biological mothers.
Within a few months of returning from our honeymoon, our relationship started changing.
I'm not particularly proud of three failed marriages, but I do know that I gave it a try. The truth is, people change; sometimes we change with them, sometimes we don't. We can cry about it, be shamed by it, laugh at it, and move on.
Alimony, in spite of everything else that may be negative about divorce, should be the one part that is fair and just to both parties. No one should be the winner or the loser.
How do you know when you are ready? Will the right person just come and I'll know?
Fifty Shades Of Grey, which many say is simply erotica for the middle aged, is really a love story, and one that touches upon the very core of what effortless, extraordinary love is all about."
I made sure to marry in my twenties so I could start a family in my thirties. I planned out my life to fit a very elaborate fairy tale. But, as they say, "God laughs at those who make plans."
Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I think being married should involve the same bed, even if one of you is a snorer.
Beth Tiger, 2012.21.06