Carolyn Hax

Carolyn Hax: Updates on letter-writers you asked about

Hax cartoon for 9/23/13

A grandmother reports on her teen son’s fatherhood, and a woman with a violent (now ex-) fiance checks in.

Carolyn Hax: Reminders of ex are deal-breakers

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Woman wonders if the reflex to back out of new relationships should be overridden.

Carolyn Hax: Cooking chores scorch a relationship

(Nick Galifianakis)

Husband considers making dinner a hobby, not a responsibility, and his wife is left eating corn flakes.

Carolyn Hax: It’s your life, so you’re responsible for it

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Maybe your partner should be nicer to you. But if that doesn’t happen, get a new partner.

Carolyn Hax: Father’s wishes baffle engaged couple

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What to do when Dad offers to pay to keep the couple from cohabitating until Mr. and Mrs.?

Advice Columnists

  

Hints From Heloise: The lowdown on the wipe-down

Readers respond to a sound off about bussers using the same cloth for seats and tables.

Hints From Heloise: Downsizing containers

A reader moves condiments and lotions into smaller containers when they start to run low.

Hints From Heloise: A sidecar of hints

Heloise shares motorcycle-care tips with a fellow biker.

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Miss Manners: Let visiting relatives do laundry if they wish

She begrudges her in-laws more than one load of wash a week. Miss Manners suggests she reconsider.

Miss Manners: Facebook connections and human contact

The reader wonders if there’s a polite way to tell her friend she wants to keep it online only. The answer is no.

Miss Manners: Public humiliation not etiquette-sanctioned

Why does the Gentle Reader presume that Miss Manners will approve of embarassing strangers?

Miss Manners: Ignore fashion tastes at deathbed vigil

A reader wonders about the proper attire at such a solemn event.

Miss Manners: Grab for tuition money is best ignored

A young relative who failed to thank them for a recent wedding gift is now requesting tuition “donations.”

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Ask Amy: Life is tough at the center of the ‘sandwich’

She’s overwhelmed by responsibilities, and doesn’t feel supported by her husband.

Ask Amy: This year Santa takes a back seat to Solomon

A brother’s ugly divorce has the reader wondering how to celebrate the holidays.

Ask Amy: Forgive repayment request, then forget it

Now that she’s come into money, her sister seeks repayment of a loan, apparently forgiven, from years ago.

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Bipolar dog with PTSD needs space, control

Bipolar dog shows classic signs of post-traumatic stress disorder.

When a small dog has a big bark

Some behaviors are so instinctively hardwired and reinforced that they are a challenge to inhibit.

Helping a cat be more comfortable with a sitter

Don’t confine a cat while you’re away; dog exhibits obsessive-compulsive behavior; cost-effective pet care.

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@Work Advice

@Work Advice columnist Karla Miller (DEB LINDSEY/FOR THE WASHINGTON POST)

@Work Advice: A big, screaming deal

How to handle yellers without going crazy yourself

Family

Family Almanac

Hadley Hooper for the Washington Post

Dealing with dementia

How to be there for a sister who’s slipping — and for her husband.

Family Almanac illustration for0912 by Hadley Hooper

Therapy might bridge this gap

A mother is heartbroken after her 25-year-old daughter shuts her out.

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Pre-K or kindergarten?

A mother worries about where her son would fit best (and if the wrong decision will ruin his life forever).

Momspeak

When cheating on homework is okay

Harvard survey finds 42 percent of kids cheated on homework. What’s the big deal?

New school year’s resolution: Let teachers teach

OXON HILL, MD, AUGUST 16, 2013: Quiana Reedus, 35, takes a moment to read with four-year-old Damarco Lathern who visited Barnaby Manor Elementary School with his parents before the new school year begins. Reedus, who has been a public school teacher for 12 years, prepared her new class room in which she will teach pre-K children from now on full days. Restoring full day pre-K to eight schools in the count is part of Prince George's County Executive's Rushern L. Baker's plan to turn around the county schools in order to raise test scores, increase graduation rates and reduce truancy in six neighborhoods that have been plagued with social ills. (Photo by Astrid Riecken For The Washington Post)

This year, resolve to be a less meddlesome parent.

When the first becomes the last

**FOR USE WITH AP LIFESTYLES**    **FILE** This Sept. 4, 2007 file photo shows children unloading off the bus at Eugene Field Elementary School in Silverton, Ore., for their first day back to school.  Summer is still in full swing, but parents can already picture the first school mornings on the horizon: the challenge of dragging cranky kids out of their beds at dawn after two months of mellow summer mornings. According to the experts, parents need to start weeks in advance, adjusting their children’s bedtimes back to a school-year schedule as soon as August arrives.  (AP Photo/Statesman Journal, Lori Cain, FILE)   **MANDATORY CREDIT: STATESMAN JOURNAL, LORI CAIN**  **NO SALES**

MOMSPEAK | A few lessons learned as a mom prepares for her last first day of school.

Date Lab

Date Lab: Chris Cooley plays matchmaker

A setup partly based on a comment about T-shirts and jeans.

Date Lab: He’s a firefighter. Were there sparks?

Our daters placed high value on family, fitness and faith in their Date Lab applications.

Date Lab: They love to laugh

They got their wish, but will it last?

Date Lab: She likes him. But is he too young?

Will a two-year age difference be two too many?

Date Lab: Two guys, some drinks and an invisible fashion memo

Their shirts match, but do their personalities?

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