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Carolyn Hax

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Washington, D.C.
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Carolyn Hax: Who to call when children are in crisis

A neighbor seeks advice after witnessing a parent verbally abusing her child.

October 23, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Husband’s wandering eye sends newlywed packing

He says he’s sorry, and she’s wondering if she is giving up too easily.

October 23, 2013

Carolyn Hax: A new mother’s repurposing of food given as a gift makes her friend angry

A new mother asks what to do about a friend who’s angry that her gift of food was used to aid someone else.

October 22, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Handling a disgreement over whether a toddler should ever be spanked

A husband who believes in spanking and a wife who doesn’t: It’s time for a conversation and mutual respect.

October 21, 2013

Carolyn Hax: For babysitting grandkids, a barrage of critical e-mails

Their daughter-in-law can voice appreciative, but scoldings always follow.

October 20, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Privacy isn’t part of the deal with Dad’s advice

A letter writer is frustrated that her dad shares her personal information with his wife.

October 19, 2013

Carolyn Hax Live (Friday, October 25)

Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax takes your questions and tackles your problems.

October 18, 2013

A Trip to Dork Mountain: Carolyn Hax Live (Friday, October 18)

Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax took your questions and tackled your problems.

October 18, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Feeling distance in the marriage but sticking it out for the kids

The letter writer has grown apart from her husband and wonders when a divorce will be least hurtful.

October 18, 2013

Carolyn Hax: If someone clearly favors one child, what should the parent do?

No childhood is pain-free, but parents can help minimize exposure and damage from hurt feelings.

October 17, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Can an ultimatum save a relationship?

Half of this couple is tired of feeling they’re not sharing equal effort in planning.

October 16, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Alcoholic parents, adult child, Part II: Whose feelings get more weight?

A reader wonders what responsibility she has to an abusive mother who is seeking treatment for mental illness.

October 15, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Adult child grapples with alcoholic parents

Carolyn Hax: You are not obligated to say what your mom wants to hear or give what she wants to receive.

October 14, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Wife’s venting to Mom keeps husband on the outs

All the bad-mouthing has Mom convinced that he is a “controlling jerk.”

October 13, 2013

Carolyn Hax: A harmless schoolgirl crush?

A parent wonders whether a young girl is getting premature ideas about being in a romantic relationship.

October 12, 2013

Mr. ChopChop and Ms. Waffle: Carolyn Hax Live (Friday, October 11)

Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax took your questions and tackled your problems.

October 11, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Putting a value on relationship milestones

He is tired of apologizing for not reciprocating an expensive anniversary gift.

October 11, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Is there benefit in apologizing to a wronged ex?

Let’s look at the merits (or disadvantages) of owning up to past relationship mistakes.

October 10, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Parents hear alarm bells over daughter’s boyfriend

Parents could be using the wrong tactic in conveying their concerns about the dating situation.

October 9, 2013

Carolyn Hax: The niece, the school project and the atheism

A man whose niece is interviewing relatives about their faith wonders how to talk about her own atheism.

October 8, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Don’t get dragged into co-workers’ contest over who had it worst as a kid

Don’t get dragged into the office contest over who allegedly had it worse as a kid.

October 7, 2013

Carolyn Hax: When partners don’t share same idea of comfortable

She wants a small house to support her frugal values; he wants something bigger. She won’t budge.

October 6, 2013

Carolyn Hax: How much to expect from a significant other

A couple’s mismatched efforts to keep in touch are about them as individuals, not gender stereotypes.

October 5, 2013

Don't Worry About the Chum: Carolyn Hax Live: (Friday, October 4)

Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax took your questions and tackled your problems.

October 4, 2013

Carolyn Hax: A boyfriend, his ex’s pregnancy, and a choice

His girlfriend of two months wonders how to handle his ex being four months pregnant with his child.

October 4, 2013

Carolyn Hax: If the boyfriend is determined to smoke, time to stub out that relationship

Her boyfriend is going from ex- to current smoker — and insisting that she accept it as part of who he is.

October 3, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Sisters at odds over timing of life events

One is planning her wedding, and the other is trying to get pregnant. Their big days are on a collision course.

October 2, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Firmly but gently set boundaries with in-laws who smother

A woman wants her husband’s parents to back off a little but doesn’t want to hurt their feelings.

October 1, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Parents need to respect a son’s right to enlist — and chart his own life

A woman is torn between respecting her son’s choice and her husband’s vehement opposition to son’s service.

September 30, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Her ex is too close for comfort

She has made it clear that her ex-boyfriend is staying in the picture. Where do they go from here?

September 29, 2013
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About Carolyn

Carolyn Hax started her advice column in 1997, after five years as a copy editor and news editor in Style and none as a therapist. The column includes cartoons by “relationship cartoonist” Nick Galifianakis — Carolyn's ex-husband — and appears in over 200 newspapers.

 

Besides the daily column, Carolyn has a weekly live online discussion (noon Fridays), a reader forum and a Facebook page. She also has a policy of saying yes when NPR calls but avoids TV like something forgotten in the back of the fridge; the feeling appears to be mutual.

 

Carolyn lives in Massachusetts with her husband, three boys and medium brown dog, Billy, but sees D.C. as "home."  Sign up for Carolyn Hax’s column, delivered to your inbox early each morning.

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