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Carolyn Hax

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Washington, D.C.
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She’s accommodating, but are her friends with kids taking advantage?

She’s happy to be Auntie Kate but misses one-on-one time with the parents.

December 17, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Helping mom and daughter, 4, through a loss

A woman who has had a miscarriage worries about showing her emotions in front of her 4-year-old.

December 16, 2013

Carolyn Hax: After taking offense at roommate’s comments, don’t be defensive

Roomate’s comments about a change in behavior probably call for a humble, open-minded response.

December 15, 2013

Carolyn Hax: My best friend, the doormat

Reader wonders how she can help a friend who is repeatedly mistreated by her boyfriends.

December 14, 2013

Carolyn Hax Live (Friday, December 20)

Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax takes your questions and tackles your problems.

December 13, 2013

Carolyn Hax Live: Hootenanny of Holiday Horrors 2013 (Friday, Dec. 13)

Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax takes your questions and comments about the strange train we call life and your holiday horrors.

December 13, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Defining one’s best self

Carolyn Hax: It’s when you like yourself, when you’re getting the most out of your strengths.

December 13, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Vulnerability and self-esteem in a relationship

A woman feels inferior to the man she’s dating. Is he just using her until someone better comes along?

December 12, 2013

Carolyn Hax: On the scales of annoyance, a weight-obsessed sister ranks high

A woman wonders how to stop the endless snarky weight comments from her bulimic/anorexic family.

December 11, 2013

Carolyn Hax: A woman’s boyfriend bugs her. Does she keep seeing him?

How does she decide whether to keep seeing him?

December 10, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Learning how to say no to a 9-year-old neighbor

A mother whose kids are 4 and 5 asks how to occasionally fend off an abrasive 9-year-old neighbor.

December 9, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Kids gift-opening ‘blast’ may not be on her brother’s holiday highlights list

She’s angry about her brother and his wife skipping the holiday ritual, but their reason is none of her business.

December 8, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Accepting Mom for who she is — and isn’t

After years of trying to improve the relationship, it’s time to accept reality.

December 7, 2013

Threshold of Actual Harm: Carolyn Hax Live (Friday, December 6)

Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax took your questions and tackled your problems.

December 6, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Blocking a co-worker’s girlfriend from the conversation

When three friends get together, one person makes the workplace outsider feel like a conversational third wheel.

December 6, 2013

Carolyn Hax: When love comes too soon after a breakup

She fell head over heels for a guy who wasn’t quite over his previous relationship, and is paying a price.

December 5, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Asking isn’t always the best way to communicate with loved ones

Reader wonders why fiance has a problem with her seeking his input from time to time.

December 4, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Frustrated by changing friendships

She’s the last to settle down, and her friends are too busy for her milestones.

December 3, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Should they move in together after dating for five months?

They’ve been dating for five months and talking about next steps.

December 2, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Who merits compassion in a family struggle centered on an abusive mom?

A woman flying solo at home while her husband tends to his abusive, addicted mother struggles with anger.

December 1, 2013

Carolyn Hax: She’s perturbed over pretty friend’s pedestal

An old college pal has moved to town, and a woman resents the perch men put her on.

November 30, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Can the guilt card be played to force attendance at a wedding?

Her sister won't come to a wedding across the country.

November 29, 2013

Carolyn Hax: The gray reality of marriage post-affair

A wife must accept a certain level of uncertainty after her husband’s infidelity — if she stays married.

November 27, 2013

Carolyn Hax: How you know when you’re ready to date again

A woman getting over being dumped wants to date again — but wonders how she’ll know she is ready for it.

November 27, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Googling the guy you’re dating? Readers weigh in with their views.

Some say it’s fine to check out people online before dating them. Others think it’s a creepy invasion of privacy.

November 26, 2013

Carolyn Hax: After a promising first few dates, a dark Google revelation

A guy she started dating mentioned his “difficult family.” Google shows “difficult” means “murder trial.”

November 25, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Rift removes sibling from family’s Thanksgiving table

Extended family does not know about a pattern of bullying that caused the separation.

November 24, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Facing down a gluten-free gladiator

Annoyance with sister-in-law’s self-diagnosis overlooks her own.

November 23, 2013

Carolyn Hax Live (Friday, November 22)

Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax takes your questions and tackles your problems.

November 22, 2013

Carolyn Hax: Divorced parents face conflict over guest at daughter’s graduation

He wants to invite his girlfriend to their daughter’s graduation, but his ex is opposed to the idea.

November 22, 2013
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About Carolyn

Carolyn Hax started her advice column in 1997, after five years as a copy editor and news editor in Style and none as a therapist. The column includes cartoons by “relationship cartoonist” Nick Galifianakis — Carolyn's ex-husband — and appears in over 200 newspapers.

 

Besides the daily column, Carolyn has a weekly live online discussion (noon Fridays), a reader forum and a Facebook page. She also has a policy of saying yes when NPR calls but avoids TV like something forgotten in the back of the fridge; the feeling appears to be mutual.

 

Carolyn lives in Massachusetts with her husband, three boys and medium brown dog, Billy, but sees D.C. as "home."  Sign up for Carolyn Hax’s column, delivered to your inbox early each morning.

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