Carolyn Hax

Carolyn Hax: When is spanking a child okay?

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A neighbor is angry at a misbehaving 4-year-old’s parents for not giving the child a “really good whooping.”

Carolyn Hax: The odd couple: Mr. Chop-Chop, Ms. Waffle

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When one spouse is very decisive and the other is more contemplative, it’s time to establish a middle ground.

Carolyn Hax: Boundaries and benefits in snooping on kids

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A woman whose phone plan lets her read the texts of her teenage children wonders if she is crossing the line.

Carolyn Hax: Unsure about commitment? Yeah, sure you are.

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Advice seeker asks whether marital uncertainty is legit or whether it’s just a stalling tactic to keep the status quo

Carolyn Hax: ‘Normal’ relationship ups and downs?

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A woman wonders whether the good times and the not-so-good times with her boyfriend are to be expected.

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Transgender etiquette 101

It’s always respectful to refer to people in the way that they identify and the best way to do that is to listen.

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Anxiety and me: Learning to live without worrying

A bout with cancer taught him to “wait to worry” — a mantra for life that he tried to teach his father.

EARTH CITY, MO - MAY 13: St. Louis Rams draft pick Michael Sam addresses the media during a press conference at Rams Park on May 13, 2014 in Earth City, Missouri.  (Photo by Dilip Vishwanat/Getty Images)

Civilities: What if I just don’t care that Michael Sam is gay?

A reader asks if it’s homophobic not to want to mark the NFL milestone.

  

Hints From Heloise: Packing pointers

Some tips from our hint-dispensing road warrior.

Hints From Heloise: Add water, get rid of carpet dents

A little spritz and a little fluff and things should look better.

Hints From Heloise: Parchment management

A baker in Texas can’t get her parchment paper to stay put.

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Animal Doctor: A lot of crazy from one small cat

A cat’s erratic behavior; dog’s fur changes; oral flea killer; natural diet is better for dogs; cat lives amid chaos.

Animal Doctor: When fur flies between cats and dogs

How to get dogs and cats to share living space; beware of deer mites; concerns about using a car harness.

Animal Doctor: Controlling feral cat populations

Revisiting trap-neuter-return programs; caring for a puppy while disabled; monitoring dog’s diabetes.

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Ask Amy: Grandpa is either indulgent or neglectful

She knows her father doesn’t care for her children properly when they’re with him. So why does she let him?

Ask Amy: Daughter’s relationship dilemma saddens mom

Daughter, boyfriend are on a different timetable; she’s champing at the bit to scream “Get out now!”

Ask Amy: New marriage is on the rocks

They lived together before marriage, but since they wed her husband has grown cold, critical and nasty.

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Miss Manners: Souvenirs from ex better left unworn

There’s little good and much that’s not in the Gentle Reader informing her beau she’s wearing her ex’s sweats.

Miss Manners: Online game players at a disadvantage

Players are robbed of the usual clues about motivation and conduct, but even online, it pays to play nice.

Miss Manners: Opting out of social media isn’t anti-social

The Gentle Reader is chided by siblings for eschewing social media.

Miss Manners: Limit smartphone spy app to family

Her friends have requested to be looped into her smartphone spy app; she shudders at the thought.

Miss Manners: A gesture that seems designed to annoy

Nieces “gift” from aunt and uncle is a donation to a religious charity the family finds offensive.

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Advice from Slate's 'Dear Prudence'

Live discussion with Slate advice columnist Dear Prudence, a.k.a. Emily Yoffe.

@Work Advice columnist Karla Miller (DEB LINDSEY/FOR THE WASHINGTON POST)

Gimme a break, or at least pay me for it

When your boss thinks there is something such as a free lunch.

Family

Family Almanac

Illustration by Hadley Hooper for the Washington Post

What to do for a child with night terrors

Her grandson has night terrors and she and her daughter don’t know what to do.

Illustration by Hadley Hooper for the Washington Post

The essence of sensory processing disorder

It could be why a high school junior refuses to take showers.

Illustration by Hadley Hooper for the Washington Post

Make your little 800-pound gorilla sleep where mama says

Mother needs to gently assert her authority over a 31 / 2-year-old.

Momspeak

The looming empty nest

Ordinary events remind writer that one stage of motherhood is coming to an end.

Even kids know that guns are a public health issue

With surgeon general debate, adults run the risk of alienating those they are trying to protect

Cutting the writing section from the SAT is just plain dumb

No skill should be more valued that being able to translate your thoughts clearly into writing

How mothers can have joy and fun

Olympian mom shows that parenthood doesn’t need to be a zero-sun game.

Senioritis is very rarely fatal

Despite dire warnings and parental angst, few students lose their acceptances to senioritis.

Date Lab

Carolyn and Johnny at Arlington Rooftop Bar and Grill April 2, 2014

Some couples are meant to be (but maybe not this one)

This date didn’t begin well, and it went downhill from there.

Date labbers Alex and Liz at Ceiba april, 2014

It might have gone differently if they both wanted dessert

She’s searching for a romantic artist, but she finds a spreadsheet-lover.

Brennan Love, and Megan Jeffries

With a name like Love, he could be the one

Being “very tall” and “handsome” probably doesn’t hurt, either.

Date Labbers Charlotte and Donald at Ghar-e-Kabob on March 19, 2014

‘The conversational kiss of death’

She says he’s “pudgy.” He says nothing made him go “Woohoo!”

Date Labbers Arielle and Daniel at Grill at Ipanema, March 17, 2014

They swapped travel stories, but what about numbers?

Date Lab: She’s a beekeeper, but unfortunately that’s the only buzz about this date.

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