Question: My name is Elle, I'm a 20 year-old female. I know you get questions on what I'm
about to ask you all the time-- that's why there are sections dedicated to it on
the site. But I hope that maybe you've heard a case like mine in specific, and
could help me in that way.
So here goes... background info, in case you think it's important: I grew up in
a very loving family. In fact, I'm in college but I'm very, very close to them
(grandparents, too). I have an older brother, who is mentally disabled. We never
really talk much about sex in my family... but I know it is preferred that I
wait until marriage to have sex.
I'm not one of those girls that discovered masturbation at a really young age. I
knew nothing about any of that- nor was I interested. I started dating my best
guy friend about 4 years ago, and I wanted to stay a virgin (I'm still with him,
and I'm still a virgin). So basically I tried to not let him touch me too much,
and I just gave him manual/oral sex for about 2 years. Then he started the same
things on me. He tries on me, but it never works out. I don't really like oral
sex... something about the feeling annoys me. I think his fingers are too big
and it hurts when he tries fingering me (or maybe I'm putting too much of the
blame on him...) But it's been 4 years of him being satisfied, and me never, and
now I am interested in being pleasured myself.
I have tried SO hard to make myself feel good... and it works to a certain
extent. But my boyfriend seems to be the only thing that really arouses me (that
probably makes sense, right?) I've tried every position on myself... clitoral
stimulation, using lube, every hand motion...I've asked my two best girl friends
(who are apparently experts). I've watched porn and tried, I've read sexy
stories....nothing is working so far. I try to keep an open mind and stay
positive (and not masturbate for the "goal") but that's really hard to
do sometimes. I can't seem to make up a scene/fantasy in my mind for long enough
to masturbate and keep it feeling good- my friends tell me this is important. So
porn may help a little, but not enough.
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