Sean Jameson is an author and sex coach from Ireland, and the author of the Bad Girl’s Bible. Whether you are looking to learn some new and interesting sex positions or you want to give your man a wonderful blow-job or even if you want to learn to talk dirty to your man, Sean Jameson is your man.
Looking to take your sex life to new heights? Luckily, we were able to catch up with Sean and get him to provide us with some expert tips.
What made you want to write the Bad Girl’s Bible?
It’s funny actually, I never planned to create the Bad Girl’s Bible. It all came about from a girlfriend when I was living in Australia. We got on like a house on fire in every aspect of our relationship…except the bedroom. The problem was that she was a bit of a perfectionist in most aspects of her life (which actually made her pretty dam awesome!) but she was also quite shy & nervous when getting intimate. This meant that she wanted our sex life to be ‘perfect’, but was too afraid to try anything in case it wasn’t ‘perfect’. It was quite frustrating.
I really wanted the relationship to work, so I decided to do everything I could to give her the confidence & skills to rock my world in the bedroom. I read every book I could get my hands on, listened to every podcast & audio course I could find and watched hours & hours of seminars and video instructions. I couldn’t find any one excellent source of advice. It was either some uber-spiritual guru talking about ‘energy flow’ or some pornstar giving advice on impossible to perform sex positions. I was able to use 1 or maybe 2 ideas from each book or course I read, but the problem was that I just couldn’t find any simple, down to earth advice that actually worked for normal people.
So I started to keep a notebook of these tips that actually worked & helped my girlfriend to improve. At first there were just a few ideas in the notebook, but eventually I filled it from cover to cover. And the best part was that these tips actually worked! My girlfriend quickly became a rockstar in bed by making just a few simple changes & improvements. I was so pleased (& turned on) with the improvement.
Because the change was so dramatic, I decided to start a newsletter for fun, sending tips out to people every week or so.
That newsletter turned into a snowball!
More and more people signed up and started sending me questions. Many of the questions were very similar, so instead of repeating myself in every reply, I felt it would be easier to just have a website to direct people to. And the Bad Girl’s Bible was born!
When working on creating the Bad Girl’s Bible, what’s the #1 thing you learned about women and sex?
The #1 thing I learned about women and sex is:
If you want to sexually satisfy your man & having him obsessed with only you, then you need to understand that it’s not just the techniques you use in the bedroom (even though I can teach you plenty of awesome ones!). You need to learn how to build sexual tension too.
If you become good at building sexual tension, then your man will spend hours & days thinking about what you have in store for him. If you can really do it properly, then he will be obsessively fantasizing about you…so when you do use my techniques he will be in a world of ecstasy & eager for more.
In your opinion, what’s the key to being a good lover?
Enthusiasm.
It’s incredible what enthusiasm will do for your sex life. Being enthusiastic gives you this amazing ability to make sex more passionate & intimate even if you don’t know that many different techniques.
What do men wish women did more of in bed?
Honestly, it all depends on your man. Guys sadly aren’t all built the same, so there is no one size fits all solution. It’s usually a case of experimenting and seeing what your man responds best to. Some great starting points are:
– Taking the initiative
– Getting a little rougher than usual
– Surprising him with a blow job or hand job when he least expects it (when watching TV, when he wakes up, etc.)
The key with all of these examples (and whatever else you try) is making sure to get feedback from your man to see what kinds of things he likes & doesn’t like.
What are your top 3 tips for giving a great blow-job?
1. The top of his penis is by far the most sensitive, so focus your attention there with your tongue, lips and hands (yes, you should be using your hands during your blow jobs!). The great thing about this is it means you never even have to take his penis that deep in order to provide him with lots of pleasure.
2. Keep trying new things & adding to your repertoire. As well as trying new blow job techniques, try varying the positions you use, where you give them (bedroom, living room, shower, outside, etc.) as well as the speed at which you do it. That old phrase “variety is the spice of life” is still true today.
3. Get feedback from your man. I know you may be expecting me to give you that one ‘perfect’ technique, but truthfully it just doesn’t exist. A great blow job for one guy may be a lousy blow job for another. So try some different techniques and then get some feedback. There’s no need to hand him a detailed survey after each blow job! Just ask him what techniques he enjoyed the most and why.
Thanks for the great interview Sean!
If you’d like to learn more about Sean Jameson and how to have great sex, then you may want to check out the Bad Girl’s Bible here.
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