Dude, I don't mean to pile on, but how in the hell did you jump to this conclusion? I mean seriously, how? It's one thing to ask if a friend has mutual feelings for you and going from there - but just to just flat out ask if you should randomly sleep together because you have a strong friendship is ludicrous.While sitting she asked me again about anything I was afraid of. I told her I was afraid of what she might say to something I was thinking about which had been eating at me for a couple hours at that point. She asked what it was.
I, verbatim, asked her if she thought us sleeping together was a good idea, before I left. She said no, and her response was cold and her body language immediately told me she was taken aback by the question.
I saw what my question did and the schism it had just rendered between us and didnt know what to say. I told her I thought I'd ask because of the trust I had in her as someone I relied on through the years of friendship between us which involved a level of bonding I havent shared with many others. She said if I really was her friend I would know that she doesnt want to be seen as something to be used for sex and that she had been really hurt by being mistreated that way before. That I invoked this kind of reaction in someone I at least thought I cared about as much as her felt like someone had just driven a stake into my chest, and placed gloves full of thumbtacks over my hands.
Beyond that, I'd move on and try to stop dwelling on it.
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