Hi everyone! So I'm at 100+ days no PMO and I've been spending some time with a great girl. The almost all of this reboot I've been in a flatline - while my morning woods have slowly been getting harder and increasing in frequency, I've still had very little libido and zero spontaneous erections. About 7 days ago I spent a comfortable, relaxed night with a girl that seemed to have reawakened something in! We kissed, cuddled and did some touching all with clothes on. It was an amazing feeling - I've been feeling an increase in libido and healthy sexual perspective on women since! I'm definitely still not recovered - my erections aren't hard enough yet, and I'm pretty sure I couldn't have successful sex, but I just wanted to write because I really, really, really think that kissing, cuddling and being intimate without orgasming can accelerate your reboot by leagues.
Well kissing and cuddling releases the hormone oxytocin so that explains why you feel greater pleasure. When I was in relationship and suffering from ed, just relaxing next to my partner and cuddling spiked an erection and libido increase.
Although I understand the hormones thing, I think the most important thing is it's actively changing my brains reward system from porn to women, and I've seen some tremendous gains because of it.
I agree, I think a considerable part of the big change I've seen in myself over the past 80 days or so have been because I've been interacting (as in kissing etc) real life women. For me at least I think there's two parts to this. One is to kill your porn addiction, and the other is to awaken your arousal to actual females. Females that you can touch, smell, feel and interact with. It's hit me hard, the power of those sensations. It's truly a beautiful thing, and something I am so glad to finally appreciate again. I've written about this in my journal as well. I think it's vitally important to the reboot process.
Never taken them! I don't want to unless I'm sure my reboot is complete and I'm using them only for potential anxiety because I think it can really slow down recovery to artificial force erections and orgasms. :-\
